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loser lovers – Herman’s bridge update #10

This update is written by Ben…all the way from Houston, Texas!

A while ago, when Terry and I first launched the Herman’s Bridge project, we informed one lady of our project and she questioned, “Well, I hope Herman’s not a loser, is he?” I was caught a little off-guard by the way she came back with such a loaded question. I wanted to be like, “so, what if he is?” She exposed our real intentions – to love those that everyone else thinks are losers.

We are loser lovers because of our belief that God has a special concern for the most vulnerable of society. We are loser lovers because, like John Lennon’s admission in the Beatles song “I’m a Loser,” we, admit that we are losers ourselves. We, though unworthy of grace and redemption, have been reconciled…redeemed…we are being restored.

Over the past year, we’ve literally met countless “losers” on the streets of Wilmington, DE. The last couple of weeks, we’ve met two new losers: Darien and Gandy. Gandy is 46, works 14 hour roofing shifts on the weekends, and has a difficult time finding steady work during the week. Darien recently got out of prison, only to find that his kids’ mother had skipped town. He has a tattoo of his youngest child’s 2006 birth date on his arm. Darien realizes his situation as temporary and looks forward to being reunited with his children.

What makes Darien’s story come full circle is that he was present during our interview with the News Journal. The article mentions that “Cooper looked up to see several of the homeless guys wrestling on a concrete walkway. He was concerned. But the tussle broke up with laughter, rather than taunts and spite.” That was Darien and his friend acting out in strange ways. After hearing Darien’s story, his acting out wasn’t so strange; it was pretty normal.

I think that part of what makes our mission so unique is that we try to treat everyone as “normal.” Yes, everyone is unique, and certainly many of their problems are complex and require special consideration; but, even more powerful is the idea that Herman, Darien, and Gandy are our neighbors, and when our neighbors spend the night on the streets and are treated with disrespect, it upsets us. We want to break the social barriers in our own lives that treat them as outcasts.

One gentlemen handed Lorenzo a few coins last week, but it was the kind of gift that said “here’s some money, hopefully that’ll make you go away.” When we handed Lorenzo a sandwich and made eye contact, his smile told us he was being restored.

What better way to treat someone neighborly than to throw them a birthday party?

“Then Jesus said to his host, ‘When you give a luncheon or dinner, do not invite your friends, your brothers or relatives, or your rich neighbors; if you do, they may invite you back and so you will be repaid. But when you give a banquet, invite the poor, the crippled, the lame, the blind, and you will be blessed.’”

This is, in fact, what happened just a few weeks ago. We threw Herman a birthday party.

Herman invited his friends and family. He has LOTS of family. He bragged that “not even everyone showed up.” We met his nieces, nephews, sisters, and even his father. He has one of those families that’s always laughing and arguing at the same time.

Ken brought his family. Rick brought his wife. Joanna and Ryan brought their kids. Josh and Christy came. We broke all kinds of unwritten rules. Blacks dined with whites, old with young, rich with poor, city dwellers with suburbanites…all united at Christina Park.

Perhaps the best expression of unity was the opening prayer. We all circled and held hands. We must have taken up half of a football field. We thanked God for the children that were playing together and that all were present in honor of a single cause – Herman’s birthday.

Libby had a cake made that said, “Happy Birthday to the Herminator.”

We ate. We played chess. We mingled with Herman’s family. We swung Eli and Eden in circles by their arms (according to Eli, they went 8 mph). We were blessed.

Sometimes homeless people are enigmas. Herman’s issues may be obvious, but the answers to the questions of “why?” and “how to help?” are not. With each conversation, we find out a little bit more about Herman and we get closer to helping him in a more significant manner. It was good to talk with his family.

There is much more to tell. Thanks for showing continued interest in this story. Thanks for being patient as we wrestle with the best way to help Herman. Thanks for trusting us in an untrusting world.

Herman’s story is getting harder to tell

I’m so behind on the updates. Seems like life and my 3 kids are gettin’ in the way of my blogging lifestyle.

Ah, who am I kidding? That’s just an excuse. The real reason I haven’t written is because this story is getting hard to tell.

But our promise was to tell you the story…

At the end of May we had a really beautiful birthday party for Herman. Ben wrote a great update that I’ll be posting on Wednesday, with some pictures from the party.

Last Monday, Ben and I visited Herman in prison.

Yes, Herman is in prison. He got locked up. There’s a convoluted story about him trying to cash a bad check in Chester. Of course we don’t suppose to know the whole truth.

Let me say right here – Ben and I are convinced more than ever that God himself helped us hand pick Herman. He’s easy to love and hard to love at the same time. Why is loving so complicated?

Two Wednesdays ago, we went looking for Herman and couldn’t find him in the usual spots.

Ben asked Delancy, “Hey Delancy, you seen Herman?”

Delancy responded, “I heard Herman got locked up.”

Ben and I looked at each other. Got in the car and headed to the one and only men’s prison in Wilmington – Gander Hill (pictured above). We found Herman – but we had to wait about a week to see him.

On our 1 hour visit – we talked to Herman through a glass window, with terrible old school pay-phone-like telephones that buzzed the whole time. It was like a painful hour long hearing test.

All this time we could go hang with Herman whenever we felt like it, all on our terms – until now. Now we were separated by glass. Glass is such a divider. It makes it worse that you can see through it.

Herman was wearing all white. He looked a little agitated. But he was happy to see us. At one point, he said “I knew if I got any visitors it would be you two. I knew you would find me.”

Ben and I took turns straining to hear Herman. We pieced together his story. Towards the end Ben got to say his last goodbyes to Herman, and I heard Ben say – “I love you Herman.” I could tell from Ben’s voice that he meant it. Like really meant it. (Ben moved to Houston last Wednesday. He’s going to be an amazing doctor.)

I told my children that Herman is in jail. Tonight I was praying with Eden. She asked me if she could pray. What did I say? Yes, of course! 4 year olds say the most amazing and beautiful prayers.

Eden prayed….”Jesus, help Herman to get out of jail soon.”

A simple prayer, that I know God heard.

I don’t know how to pray for Herman – except that he might truly be transformed by God. That God would change him. I know I can’t. And that God would provide for all his needs.

I was reminded again on Sunday to seek out compassion for Herman. Our Pastor was closing his sermon series on Hebrews. Right there at the end of Hebrews was a verse I needed to hear:

Remember those in prison, as if you were there yourself. Remember also those being mistreated, as if you felt their pain in your own bodies. Hebrews 13:3

In a way, Ben and I have earned a voice in Herman’s life – a voice that will hopefully call him to a new place in his life (maybe over time). At least we can give him that opportunity. I’m learning through this that I can’t change anyone. Only God can, and even if I do everything in my power to change someone – it’s still totally out of my control – you know?

Oh the money! Almost forgot. It’s been a while now that Ben and I have realized that Herman is not ready for an apartment. We were in the process of looking into a couple of programs in Wilmington that offer housing and drug and alcohol recovery assistance all together. At this point, we still hope to use the money directly for Herman – once he’s in a healthy place to receive. We’ve even talked about using the money for counseling.

Just in case you’re wondering – we’re not going to pocket the money! We’re not that lame, I promise. The money will sit in a separate account until we figure out how to spend it.

You know, in the end – money doesn’t solve anything. It’s not the answer.

a person

herman is not a problem

we are trying to solve

herman is a person

we are trying to love

 

The Ordinary Radicals

Last week, Nicole from The Ordinary Radicals documentary came to Wilmington to meet Herman. She also talked with me and Ben about the homeless scene here – she wanted to hear the Herman’s Bridge story first hand.

Ben and I had a great time hanging out with Nicole and John (2 ordinary radicals), playing chess with Herman and sharing a meal together – that is once we found a place that was still open for lunch!  (We found out the hard way that the happening lunch scene in center city Wilmington shuts down @ 3 PM – but Brew Ha Ha didn’t let us down…)

Earlier this spring, Ben and I had the chance to go to Kensington, Philadelphia to have lunch with Jamie Moffett. Jamie is the director of The Ordinary Radicals documentary. Both Jamie and Nicole are working hard to tell an important story.

Nicole wrote an excellent blog entry about her day in Wilmington – check it out and leave a comment on The Oridinary Radicals blog. Check out their documentary info and other resources too.

Her is part of the blog…

This past week I went down to Wilmington, DE to meet with Terry and Ben to interview them for The Ordinary Radicals Documentary. Ben and Terry do not get much more ordinary as people. They are both married, go to church, and hold big business jobs. They were living their suburban lives as usual when knowledge hit them like a bus out of nowhere. Forcing them, as it did me, out into the world to do small, seemingly insignificant things. Things like taking the homeless and hungry out to share a meal with them. It was this small action that birthed a close friendship with many that our society shuns. One of these beautiful friendships is with a guy named Herman, who I also had the chance to meet.

Read the rest here!

$2,306…so far, wow! – Herman’s Bridge update #8

Hi everyone,

Sorry for the lack of updates. There is still a lot happening – good things happening.

Ben and I continue to meet up with Herman each Wednesday, and we are in the process of helping him take some new steps. He still has a long way to go, so please remember him in prayer.

One thing we’ve noticed is that this experiment has given Herman an extra layer of accountability – that he never had before. He seems to be recognizing how people from all over the country are chipping in to help him. And you know what? That’s giving him HOPE.

We had the chance to take him some of your notes/letters. We’ll make sure he gets all the letters, a few at a time.

This whole experience has been so humbling for us.

So far, we’ve collected 903 individual dollars!!!! So we’re very close to maxing out our two $500 matches. We also have a third donor who will give an additional $500. So we have $2,306 so far.  Yeah!

Keep telling your friends. We hope to have this wrapped up in the next couple of weeks.

Here are a couple of random bullets…

  • Herman found his Cross! (He said he found it a week after he lost it – in his stuff I think…)
  • Herman will be 58 on May 31, we’re going to throw him a birthday party – any ideas??? What should we get him? – leave a comment with your ideas! Seriously.
  • I heard about this kid (Sean) that worked a half-day with his dad to earn some dollars for Herman. Amazing.
  • One grandmother (she referred to herself as an 80 year old grandmother) sent Herman an extra $5 so he could buy himself a birthday present.
  • University of Delaware students were having a Barbecue and they started passing a bucket around for Herman. They were getting together for a Baptist Student Ministries gathering. They gave us an envelope with $39. Thanks Blake and Emily!
  • We were sent US dollars from Canada (Winnipeg & Ottawa) and Perth, Australia! Global.
  • We have all the major sections of the US represented (Northeast, Southeast, Northwest -thanks Oregon, Midwest, California and Texas)
  • We have some photos and other updates coming soon. In the meantime, I updated the map. It’s exciting to see so many states jumping in to help Herman.

Peace!


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love, for the day is near

We’re finding that Herman has a debt that needs to be paid. A relatively small debt. Is there a better picture of the gospel – but to pay someone’s debt? – without any expectation of anything in return?

Love, for the Day is Near (Romans 13:8-11)

Let no debt remain outstanding, except the continuing debt to love one another, for he who loves his fellowman has fulfilled the law.

The commandments, “Do not commit adultery,” “Do not murder,” “Do not steal,” “Do not covet,” and whatever other commandment there may be, are summed up in this one rule:

“Love your neighbor as yourself.”

Love does no harm to its neighbor. Therefore love is the fulfillment of the law.

Let’s apply some of this to Herman, what do you say?

As a side note, Herman lost his cross (the one pictured here). The picture of Herman holding his cross was in the News Journal article. The caption under the photo read:

“I found God when I found this cross,” says Gibbs of the Christian symbol he wears.

Ben and I met Herman for breakfast on Sunday, the day after the article was published. Herman was admittedly proud of himself for getting in the News Journal. In Herman’s way, he sees the publicity as affirmation of his worth. Ironically, he lost his cross on the street the day the article ran. In Herman’s words, “it (the cross) came like it went.”

Herman’s Bridge – update #6

Ben, Terry, and Herman in the Media
See below for links to newspaper stories, video, and radio podcasts
News Journal Coverage
“I call him The Herminator,” says Cooper, a tall, trim 27-year-old from Bear who plans to move to Houston, Texas, later this year to attend medical school.

“Call me the generator, if you like,” Herman jokes, adding that his mind percolates too.Terry and Herman

As a result of the blog posts, readers from Delaware, Texas and Vermont — all over — are getting to know Herman, as the young men usually call him.

Readers now send Herman encouraging letters along with $1 donations, having read that he sleeps in a warehouse on the Wilmington waterfront.

Cooper and Foester believe they’ll raise $1,000 or more for Herman. But they insist this is more about connecting with another human than fundraising.

“Our philosophy is to be laid- back and be a friend — we’re not treating Herman as a problem who needs to be solved,” says Foester…

Herman’s Bridge – update #5

If you’re just learning about Herman’s Bridge, and you want to give Herman 1 dollar – start here. Don’t forget to leave a comment on the original post if you’re in.

Ben and Terry were interviewed by Rick Jensen @ WDEL. Listen here!

Rick Jensen interviewing Ben and Terry about Herman’s Bridge

Ben and Terry goofing off in the WDEL/WSTW lobby…good times.

Feel free to leave comments or questions, and Ben and I will respond. We want to hear how Herman’s Bridge is influencing you.

Our idea of Family fun.

Peace!

Herman’s Bridge map – update #4

This map is a living document. If anything, it’s certainly alive and moving. These are the towns and cities across the nation where a dollar was sent to Herman.


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Thanks so much for sparing a dollar for Herman.

If you have no idea what Give Herman One Dollar means, start here.

Peace!

Ben & Terry

Give Herman One Dollar – update #3

Update: Ben and Terry had a blast being interview by Rick Jensen. Listen to the full interview here.

Ben and Terry talking about Herman’s Bridge on the Rick Jensen Show
Wednesday, April 30, 2:07 pm on WDEL, 1150 AM

Rick Jensen

This Wednesday afternoon tune in to hear all about Ben and Terry’s efforts to make a difference in Wilmington – One Dollar at a time!

WDEL’s Rick Jensen will have them on the show during the 2:00 hour (right after the top-of-the-hour news).

Give Herman One Dollar – update #2

If the statement,”Give Herman One Dollar” doesn’t mean anything to you – start with the original post. If you know about the wildfire, read on.

To all you Herman supporters…

Your response to Herman continues to overwhelm us. We talked to Herman last Wednesday (4/23), and gave him some of the hand written notes that you wrote him. Ben even read a few aloud to him.

There was something really amazing in hearing those letters read to him, as we all stood together under Heman’s Bridge. Something real is happening. I remember one note that Ben read was very simple, but it captures what a lot of you are saying to Herman. It said…

Herman, I’m praying for you in Vermont.

We gave a handful of your notes to Herman, and will give him another handful next time we see him. We’ll wait and give him all your dollars at once, but as we already said – it won’t be in cash. We’re working on a few ideas on how to best pull our resources together for something significant. More to come…

Peace!

Terry

PS – We’re approaching $300 dollars (that’s what physically has come in and doesn’t take into account all the comments on the original post)…so with the match we’re over $600. Yeah! So if my math is right, that’s 300 people that have each given Herman a dollar. I love simple math.

Give Herman One Dollar -update #1

If the statement,”Give Herman One Dollar” doesn’t mean anything to you – start with the original post. If you know about the wildfire, read on for update #1.

Our simple contract: You trust us and we’ll tell you the story.

It’s obvious from your initial response that you trust us. Thanks. Ben and I will do our best to hold up our end, and tell you the story.

The story so far? It’s working.

On Friday, I took my son Eli to Herman’s PO Box. Eli was seriously pumped to open box #363. And so was his daddy. With excitement, we turned the key and peeked in. It was only two days after the original post, so I wasn’t sure if we would find anything inside…but we did.

Herman\'s PO Box

Eli checking Herman’s PO Box (don’t worry, we fuzzed out your return addresses)

Your response overwhelms us! We’re sure now that this will turn into something significant for Herman. I went to the PO box again today, and there were 20 envelopes from around the country. The layers keep expanding and we’re giving grass roots a new name. Wildfire.

Ben posted a great update, check it out.

Special thanks to other bloggers for posting the story, like Curtis and Greg. You can find an excellent summary on Jason Boyett’s relevant blog. It’s worth the read for the Seinfeld reference. And we’ve noticed that other Relavant readers are jumping in.

Eli had “daddy” day at his pre-school on Friday. Afterward, he and I went out to lunch downtown and then took a walk over to Herman’s Bridge. We found Herman, gave him some T-shirts and fruit, and I told Herman about our experiment. He agreed to be the main character; he’s excited to see where this might go.

Eli giving Herman fruit

Eli giving fruit to Herman.

Several things that have surprised us so far:

  • How willing people are to trust
  • How this spread across the nation in about a day. (A map is coming soon that shows where the dollars are coming from).
  • How many children are getting involved. (One kid is even giving his birthday money, that’s huge)!
  • The hand written notes to Herman, that wrap the dollar. (We’ll make sure Herman gets each note – keep them coming).

We’ll continue to tell the story. Feel free to post any questions or comments on this or Ben’s post and we’ll respond. And make sure you leave us a comment on the original post so we can track the response. Be sure to leave your name, city and state so we can track this across the nation.

A lot of you have asked how we plan to spend the money on Herman. We’ve already started that conversation with Herman. He has some great ideas on how to help himself – but we’re going to make sure it’s something significant. More on that soon…

Thanks for helping our friend.

Eli and Herman under Herman\'s Bridge

Eli and Herman under Herman’s Bridge in Wilmington, Delaware

bigish small news – what can 1 dollar really do?

Like in chess – sometimes you need to start playing the game and figure out the moves along the way – are you in?

used with permission, libbyportraits.com

Ben and I just started a virtual experiment, right here.

Often, experiments fail. Experiments are risky. Experiments push boundaries. Many times, experiments raise more questions than they answer. But in the end, something new is discovered.

It’s important to say right up front that we’re not setting out to solve any specific problem – but we do hope to discover something new – and maybe bring a little restoration along the way.

But first, let’s set the scene…the scene you forgot about…

You are walking down Market Street in Wilmington, DE (or call it Houston, TX or Los Angeles, CA or Detroit, MI). Everyone is moving quickly except you. Today you’re not in a hurry. You begin to look around and suddenly you feel out of place. It’s a cool day, but the sun feels warm. You look up for some reason, to find the sun. It’s right above you. You realize you forgot where you are headed – and you begin dodging people. They know where they’re going – “whoa that guy has a nice suit!”

You think, “Get your head out of the sky bro”. And you let these thoughts pass as melancholy begins to set in.

Rounding the corner, RIGHT in front of you is a man. He has distinct features. His face is especially worn. He looks right at you – right into your eyes – he says with a half smile “any spare change? I could use some.”

In a split second several thoughts run through your little mind. You react. Mostly with questions that you keep to yourself. It’s amazing how quickly your brain is working today, and how good you are at having a conversation with yourself.

“Is that alcohol I smell? Why is this guy bothering me? He should get a job. Really, why can’t he get a job? I have a job. He should get a job. Well maybe he has some kids at home, that could really use my change. Do I even have any change? I only have bills. I wonder if I have any dollar bills. But that would mean I’d have to stop and get out my wallet – and what if I only have fives? Then what do I do? What if he grabs my wallet? Maybe I should keep walking. Yeah – keep walking. Don’t make eye contact. That guy’s face looks worn. His cheeks look really worn. His shoes are pretty nice though.”

You keep walking. It’s your choice.

Since you’re melancholy today, you keep asking questions.

“Maybe I should turn around and talk to that guy. But wouldn’t that be even weirder at this point? It’s easier to keep walking – but now I feel bad. Why do I feel bad? I haven’t done anything wrong, have I? Man, I’m thinking too much today – I just need to stop thinking and remember where I was headed…what can a dollar really do anyway?”

You don’t answer your last rhetorical question.

So that’s the scene, can you relate? We can.

Maybe the person you walked by was Herman. We know Herman really could use your dollar. Let us introduce him…

This is a picture of Herman (right side) spanking Ben in chess, while Eden and I watch. Ben, what was it – 8 moves?

Stretch getting spanked in chess

Ben and I take homeless people to lunch every Wednesday. We’ve discovered that in many ways, they take us to lunch. We’ve been at it for almost a year now, and it’s too much fun to stop. Our friends have joined in.

We met Herman last fall, and have had a great time getting to know him, and hearing his story.

We know where he hangs out, where he keeps his stuff – and how he helped raise his grand nephews while he lived with his niece. He likes chess, and his street name is Rue. He wears size 32-36 waist jeans. He doesn’t like riding far distances to buy pasta sauce. Thanks to Joanna and Ryan he has a tarp to keep his stuff dry. Thanks to Krissy – he has a sleeping bag. He’s been on a waiting list for a subsidized apartment since February 16, 2006. He’s still waiting. We’re trying to help him get on other lists. He’s turning sixty soon. He worked in a factory near the train station for most of his career, and now sees himself as retired.

He has a routine to keep himself moving and out of trouble. He’s a leader in his community, and police officers actually talk to him as a liaison to others that hang under Herman’s Bridge.

Ben is moving to Houston in June to start med. school, and we want to do something significant for Herman before then. We need your help.

The idea is simple – that a bunch of smalls would come together to make one big. Or maybe it’s better said that a bunch of smalls will come together to make a relatively bigish small. Got that?

This idea of a lot of smalls coming together comes right from Shane Claiborne – he describes it really well in his book Irresistible Revolution. Ben and I read Irresistible Revolution last summer. It challenged us to listen to Jesus’ words with new ears.

As I mentioned earlier – this is an experiment of sorts – and we don’t expect to solve world poverty here, or even to solve all of Herman’s problems. He has as many as Ben and I do. But if we have learned anything over the last year – it’s that we can help. We’re in a place to help. If you’re reading this – that means that you have access to a computer – and that you have time to read a random blog – and that you probably have a dollar in your wallet.

Go ahead and check, seriously. We’ll wait….

Good. So here’s the deal. We have some financial backing; someone has offered part of their tax refund to help Herman. They said that they would match up to $500 dollars for a onetime gift to help Herman.

Last night, I asked Eli how much we would have if one person gave $500 to Herman, and 500 people each gave $1 to him. Eli thought for a minute – and the light bulbs started to go off. “Herman would have $1000 dollars!”

I asked him, “Eli, are you in?”

He said, “Can I give 2 dollars?, then he’d have 1000 and one dollars.” (Seriously, I’m not making this up to be cute – that’s what he said. You can ask Libby)

I said to him, “No you can’t give me two dollars buddy – but you can give me one. Maybe you can think of your own idea on how to use your other dollar to help someone else.”

So I’m asking you to give Herman a dollar. That’s all.

Details details!

You may have the same question Eli did: Can I give two? We’d rather you just give one. Be like Eli, and give your other dollar to someone else. If you live in the area – feel free to randomly walk up to me or Ben and hand us a dollar bill. We’ll know what to do. And it will become two.

Or, if you live in Texas (as many of my readers do) – you can use the PO box below.

This is a true 1 for 1 match, so if all seven of our readers each give a dollar (and we know that Eli is already in) – then we’ll buy something really nice for Herman with our 16 dollar bills. We’ll be creative and make sure it’s something nice.

We won’t give him a life-size cardboard check – we’ll talk to him – find his need – and then get something he can use. In other words, we’re not going to give Herman cash. We’re going to work with him to see how this money might help him best.

Our simple contract: You trust us and we’ll tell you the story. It’s simple.

A thousand dollars for Herman.

Are you in?

I hope 500 of you are.

Remember, this is a virtual blogging experiment. But it’s true. Feel free to be critical and not join in. Or, feel free to be critical and join in anyway. Or just join the game.

Follow these 3 simple steps:

  1. Comment here on this blog.
  2. Leave your first name and your city/state, or if you’re scared just leave your “street name” – and tell us “I’m in.”
  3. Follow through by sending $1 to:

Herman’s Bridge
PO Box 363
Montchanin, DE 19710-0363

Go tell 500 of your friends before June. Help us make this idea fly.

PS – in case you’re wondering – I checked, and it is legal to send cash in the mail. Just wrap it in a sheet of paper with a little note to Herman and we’ll see that he gets it. We’re giving grass roots a new definition. We’re going old school here. Or send a money order or check made out to “Terry Foester”.

One last thing – we’re doing this in Jesus’ name. Herman already knows this, but we want to help him understand.

Here’s the reality of the situation…it’s not our doing.

He raiseth up the poor out of the dust, and lifteth up the beggar from the dunghill, to set them among princes, and to make them inherit the throne of glory: for the pillars of the earth are the Lord’s, and he hath set the world upon them. 1 Samuel 2:8

It’s true.

An Abundant Life

Anne Jackson asked this question on her blog:

What does an abundant life look like to you?

Here was my 10 second, off the cuff comment….

  1. By Terry Foester on Mar 19, 2008 | Reply

    I have such a negative take on my abundant life right now.

    Like every trendy person (i tend to be a trend follower), I’ve been trying to simplify the last couple of years. I finally got around to giving things away.

    This led to some more extreme behaviors. My buddy and I started hanging around homeless people. The more we hung with them, the more we felt convicted about our lives.

    This past weekend, I brought one of my homeless friends to my house. Introduced him to my wife and kids, and we ate a meal together. We hung out all afternoon. It was a great time.

    Then I dropped him off, under his bridge by the train station in Wilmington. And drove away.

    I’m annoyed at myself for having such an abundant life.

If you check out Anne’s blog, you’ll read a lot of really great responses of what the abundant life is – in Christ.

My response looks at it purely from a material perspective. In fact, I sound a little angry. I’m starting to understand this strange unexpected perspective of ‘a life of abundance’ colliding with the actions of helping those in need. It’s almost as if when my hands and feet interact with people in need (with the overarching goal to help) – that anger is some sort of odd by-product. Maybe righteous anger? I don’t know.

Thoughts?

“Giving to the needy” – in secret?…Herman could use a chess set

Last Wednesday we went back to the Amtrak bridge and found Herman at the same corner we found him exactly a week earlier. Herman agreed to go to lunch with us. We went to our usual place – Benjamin’s on 10th. Man, we had a really fun lunch with Herman. The guy is so fun to be around. Here are a few interesting things we learned about Herman…

  • He’s on a waiting list to get an apartment from the Wilmington housing authority.
  • He could use a good pair of jeans (waist 32 to 36 – he said the size after looking at us and sizing us up)
  • A pair of jeans will only last him about 2 weeks before they’re too old and dirty and need to be thrown out. (The 2 week thing on the jeans surprised me)
  • He needs a tarp to cover up his stuff. (He showed us a makeshift pile of his belongings. It was raining and everything he had was wet)
  • He plays chess as a hobby. (Ben’s going to give him a chess set)

Ben and I have been doing a lot of hanging around with ‘the needy’ over the last 7 months. And along the way we’ve been able to help our new homeless friends with more than just encouraging words. We’ve been sharing our street stories with friends, hoping that we can encourage others to get involved – because the need is great.

I’m feeling pretty good about the work that Ben and I have gotten ourselves into. I’m proud of the risks we’ve taken and I’ve discovered that it’s a ton of fun hanging out with homeless people. But I think God was sensing my pride, because he brought me into this passage…

Matthew 6 – Giving to the Needy (TNIV)

1 “Be careful not to do your ‘acts of righteousness’ in front of others, to be seen by them. If you do, you will have no reward from your Father in heaven. 2 “So when you give to the needy, do not announce it with trumpets, as the hypocrites do in the synagogues and on the streets, to be honored by others. Truly I tell you, they have received their reward in full. 3 But when you give to the needy, do not let your left hand know what your right hand is doing, 4 so that your giving may be in secret. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you.

The phrase ‘do not let your left hand know what your right hand is doing’ really struck me. That’s an amazing statement that gets at the heart of how we should help people. I don’t always give in secret.

Maybe giving shouldn’t be something that we keep track of just so it can show up as a deduction on our taxes. I’m not saying we shouldn’t claim our charitable giving on our tax returns, but it is challenging to keep my left hand from knowing what my right hand is doing while working in TurboTax….

In the end, there is a healthy secretive aspect to giving. I’m glad God brought me to this passage – He reminded me that all the good I do is for His glory and not my own.

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author – Terry Foester

I'm a family man at heart. I admit my world revolves around my wife Libby and our 3 hooligans...Eli, Eden and Silas. They are easy to love. I'm trying to learn to love the rest of you. I also like to ask questions.

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